February 3, 2009
February 3, 2009
For the non-professionals… like all of us!
“…covers strategies for success, including how to choose an agency, respond to potential dates and cultivate a relationship on-line…” (Aberdeen Press & Journal, Dec 03)
“…covers strategies for success, including how to choose an agency, respond to potential dates and cultivate a relationship on-line…” (Aberdeen Press & Journal, Dec 03)
“…covers strategies for success, including how to choose an agency, respond to potential dates and cultivate a relationship on-line…” — Aberdeen Press & Journal, Dec 03
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User Ratings and Reviews
4 Stars Fantastic Guide
I couldnt put the book down, there is some fantastic insights into improving your success in online dating. great book
4 Stars Easy and Good, but NOT ALL ANSWERS!!!
I liked this book, but it isn’t a book of answers. However, if you are a newbie to online dating, it helps a lot to read this book.
Most online daters have no clue what they are doing. The successful ones that you see on TV (doing eharmony commercials) are the lucky ones. That’s why this book helps. It first gives you the low down on online dating and why it is completely different from real world dating. Since it is so different, everyone needs to take a different approach to it. Surprisingly, not everyone does.
How many times have you winked at someone and not recieved a response? How many profiles have you read that say, “I don’t know what to write?” How many emails have you sent out that just didn’t work?
Well, this book explains why these things happen in online dating.
However, it isn’t a book of answers. It won’t tell you what the perfect profile is, but will give you hints on how to write one. It won’t tell you what the best picture is, but it will tell you not to post the same one twice. Treat it as a guide and you will be fine. Treat it as “the way” and you’re in trouble.
For me, I was very excited to try online dating and would go online everyday to find new connections. After reading this book, I realized online dating is not a quick and easy way to find the love of my life (like eharmony advertises), but it is more of a long haul and it requires more work than I thought. This book really helped me realize that I needed to work at online dating much like real world dating.
3 Stars Good pre-screening advice, but…
Online Dating for Dummies contains good advice about screening future dates by being sure you see their photo - it could be your cousin! Translating the written profile to weed out the more obvious fibs is also a great tip. Improper English could mean you are going to have coffee with someone who really wants a green card more than they want you. The advice the book is lacking is how to make each of those failed internet dates a learning experience. I would like to know how to polish my dating skills with a looser, so that I can really shine when I finally find a good one.
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4 Stars My Review
My reviews always air on the side of benefit of the doubt to the author. I thought this book was an easy read and had some basic common sense tips about dating online. One thing she emphasized was having a pic and safety, two important concepts.
Many other common sense tips as well. One thing I noticed in the book that I wasn’t thrilled about, she says if you are not happy in a date, then go to the bathroom and call a friend to show up and pretend you didn’t realize they were coming. ( well you still would not break a date if you were happy). Another tip, tell them you have to go home to take care of your kids… ” just make sure you have kids” etc.
I believe that 99.9% of people do not want to be lied to. If you are not happy and not miserable, why not cut the date short, but be polite. Such as I need to get going in the next 10 minutes. I have some work/laundry ( or whatever honestly) there is.
She says never go for dinner on the first date. Well some enjoy dinner even with someone new. She says it can be like a 90 minute prison. I don’t agree. I feel unless a person is acting out of line that you can learn new things about someone and you can even help put a smile on someones face even if you aren’t interested in dating them. Bottom line: Treat the other the way you would want to be treated, no need to stay hours longer if you are not happy, and no need to make b.s exuses, polite honesty is what everyone likes.
You wouldn’t leave a sales call after 2 minutes if you didn’t like the person’s hair or voice, so treat a date as you would a sales call, be polite be honest and be nice, try to make the experience a good one for both even if you are not compatable, you may have made someone’s day and you are a better person for that. Good luck with dating, and remember, be polite, be fair and be kind, you will be much happier and more respected and loved for it.
3 Stars For People Uncomfortable with Computers?
Most of what this book says is either common sense or easy to find out by using an online dating service. They sound uncomfortable enough with computers that they seem to expect readers to prefer reading a generic description on paper to reading the online descriptions that the dating services provide.
Their idea of backing up email is to print it out.
They say on page 183 that meeting in person gives away your anonymity completely, then on page 237 they describe how to meet in person anonymously. That is fairly typical about how carefully they write.
Instead of this, I recommend buying Katz’s I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book.
February 1, 2009