February 3, 2009
Something to consider…
Marriable Taking the Desperate Out of Dating
Many single adults don’t realize how their actions and their communication style could be having a negative affect on the opposite sex. Popular thinking about dating identifies certain “rules for success” for today’s singles. But the results are in, and popular thinking isn’t working. Rather than attract the opposite sex, popularly promoted roles and actions often leave singles looking desperate while sending potential dates the opposite direction.
In Marriable, Hayley and Michael DiMarco ask the question, “You aren’t desperate so why are you acting like it?” With creative chapter titles like “They Just Might Be Out of Your League” and “How Being ‘Just Friends’ is a Waste of Time,” the authors explore everything from internet dating to commitment-phobia. Writing with wit and humor, Hayley and Michael discuss the differences between men and women, what those differences mean in a dating relationship, and ultimately how to find and be a “marriable” person. With short, accessible chapters that tell it like it is, Marriable will be appreciated by men and women alike.
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User Ratings and Reviews
5 Stars Halariously True
Picking up a book like this seemed like another waste of time, but what the authors do is inject their sense of humor and blunt style of advice. Girls, we’re too desperate sometimes and we talk too much: now why didn’t I think of that? And guys, although you may feel like a loser for being the “nice guy” you have a better shot at being Marriable. They also talk about the dreaded “online dating” and how to do it and be safe. It’s not just for non-Christians!
The format of the book is easy to read, with humorous pictures that match the topics. There’s little anecdotes in the margins of the book by the co-authors as well. This book is not a waste of time or money! Single or not, pick it up.
3 Stars Decent book with a HUGE problem
There are many good things about this book, but space is limited, so I’ll only address a HUGE problem. The chapter `Men Lie to Get What They Want’ is mostly good; it deals with how men often lie to get sex and admiration from women. True enough, but near the end of the chapter the authors sail off a cliff.
Women are asked `does it bother you that all of the love and affection he has expressed are just attempts to get sex? It shouldn’t, he’s a man!’ This is applied to both `bad boys’ and `nice guys’. They insist that regardless of how dedicated to waiting for marriage & being honorable and respectful your man is; he is still a liar just trying to get sex. Worse, “when your man says he loves you, he means nothing more than when he says `I love doughnuts’. The fact that he gets to have sex with you is just a bonus.” Then, `But ladies, just in case your guy doesn’t take these words of advice, prepare yourself for lies desperately seeking admiration and sex. Hey, it’s only natural.’
This is sick. Sincere men aren’t perfect, but these slurs are insulting and patently false. The authors’ excuse disgusting male behavior; smear nice guys with it; and then tell women to tolerate it because it’s `natural’! And are women to be content being seen by their husbands as `doughnuts’ with which they can have sex?
If a woman regarded my genuine displays of love and affection as manipulative lies, the relationship would be over. Period.
Here is how a mirror image of the authors’ thoughts might read (nearly word for word):
Guys, does it bother you to know that she’s interested in sex with you only to the extent that it can get her what she most desires; an `I love you’, a bouquet of flowers, a foot rub or a romantic date? Don’t be, after all, she’s just a woman. Relax guys, you can play her like she was meant to be played; don’t reward the conniving scheming wench. Love & affection are your biggest bargaining chips, so use them wisely. Make it clear that there will be no sweet nothings until you get a binding legal document! And, after marriage, if she wants any love and affection, she’d better be `putting out’. Also realize that when she does express a desire to make love, she’s saying no more than when she was longing for that snazzy new pair of shoes. That she gets poems and flowers from you is just a bonus. Don’t let this disappoint you, it’s only natural!
Disgusting, demeaning and indefensible, but no more so than the authors’ words.
This is to say nothing of the contention that guys are, by nature, unable to be truthful and respectful. God commands guys to be truthful and honor women as they would their sisters. God asks of us nothing we can’t do (even if only with His help). To say that guys `cannot help it’ is to impugn God.
All of that aside, this is an otherwise good book.
February 2, 2009
Preparation is key!
Everyones Guide to Online Dating How to Find Love and Friendship on the Internet
Whether you’re looking for love or a special friendship, online dating is a simple yet effective way to improve your social life. It can also be a lot of fun. By making a decision to try it, you may have already opened a door to a whole new world of exciting possibilities. This practical step-by-step guide will teach you everything you need to know about online dating, so that you can do it safely and enjoyably. This is the first online dating guide written specifically for UK daters. All the advice inside is based on many hundreds of actual case studies as well as in-depth industry knowledge and personal experience. Whether you’re an Internet veteran or just starting out, this book will help you on your way to finding love online.
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February 1, 2009